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All too easily engaged couples can let wedding plans consume them as they become hung up on the small details and forget about the big reason the day is taking place –
love
.Of course you want to put on a day for everyone to remember with the perfect styling, décor and attire all in place. But beyond the pretty and the party the day is ultimately a celebration of you as a couple, your love for one another and the joining of two families (gushy, we know). So we’re encouraging our readers not to lose sight of the love during their planning journey and if anything to embrace it.
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Fall outs are bound to arise along the way but work out what you both want from your big day and then join forces to achieve it. We all hear stories of brides neglecting their men and ploughing ahead with the plans, and equally the men that don’t want to get involved and would rather take a back seat. Either scenario is going to result in someone feeling alone and possibly undervalued – in our book planning an occasion that joins two people together requires two people’s input.
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So take on board one another’s ideas, wishes and requirements and where you can’t agree be prepared to compromise – there will be a lot more of that to come in married life! Also try to look at the planning less like a chore or one great big ‘to do’ list and instead remember that this is something special that you are creating together. Have fun with it and don’t take things too seriously – everyone will still have a great day whether or not the napkins are an exact match to the bridesmaid dresses.
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On the flip side be sure to take a break from the planning here and there for those all-important ‘date nights’. Engaged or not we all fall victim of getting into a rut, but spending quality time together doing the things that you enjoy can often remind you of all the reasons you fell in love in the first place. It doesn’t matter if it’s a trip to the cinema, visiting the place you had your first date or escaping on a pre-wedding getaway, you’ll just be grateful that it’s a no-planning zone.
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A wonderful way to express how you feel about your other half and to reflect on your journey together so far is to write your own vows in the run up to the wedding. This gives you an opportunity to rip up the script and to tell your own love story. You could include details of how you met, how you’ve grown as a couple, what your partner means to you and your promises for your future together.
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If however you’re planning a religious ceremony, or you would simply like to stick to tradition, you could always request to speak at the reception. More brides are now taking up the opportunity to write their own speech for the big day – not only to say how they feel about their other half and their future together, but also to thank the other people in their life that they love and who’ve championed their relationship, such as friends, parents and siblings.
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Meanwhile for those that get stage fright there’s always the option of sending your fiancée a special a card or letter on the morning of your wedding to remind them just how much they mean to you and how excited you are for what’s to come. You might also want to include a gift that they can wear on the wedding day and beyond as a keepsake of your special day.
So as girls that have made weddings our full time job we fully support you in creating a beautiful big day but by keeping sight of the love along the way we believe you will have an equally beautiful marriage ahead of you to match.
